Dating After 40: How to Trump Being Dumped
By R.L. Morgan To trump: outshine, outclass, upstage, eclipse, surpass, outdo, outperform; beat, better, top, cap; be a cut above, be head and shoulders above, leave standing. A friend told me hed been dumped by his last sweetheart, and was still stinging from it many months later. Me: What was the reason for the breakup? He: It was stupid. Because I am fun and engaging with others, my sweetie felt I had the potential to cheat. I have never cheated, nor would I. This was all imaginary. Me: Then your sweetie did you a favor by releasing you. Imagine your life with someone who was jealous about what you had the potential to do. This person would be easily riled at your making eye contact, smiling or talking to anyone else, even if you had no intention of cheating. Perhaps your partner would read your emails or text messages, or scrutinize your cell call log. You would live in an ever-present shroud of suspicion. Would you want to live with that? He: No. Me: Then in fact, you were done a favor by being released from the clutches of an insecure person, who would have made your life hell if youd stayed together. How great that you now are available for a trusting, mature, sane person. He: You sure know how to spin it! Me: Its the truth, isnt it? He: Yes, but I hadnt thought of it like that. Most people dont. Although being released stings, if you can reframe it, you will be in less pain. There is always more than one way to interpret something, without being delusional. Both our interpretations describe the same outcome: He is single again. My philosophy is to choose the interpretation that leaves you most empowered, not depressed. So was he dumped? You could say that. Was he released from a partnership with a needlessly jealous, insecure person? Yes. Both are true. Which one leaves him feeling best about himself and ready to meet a great person? The latter. When you construe something negatively, ask yourself how else it could be interpreted. Choose the option that is still the truth, but leaves you moving forward positively, not leaving you feeling less than. R.L. Morgan, “The Dating Goddess,” brings you her experience from the front line of dating after 40 — having dated 73 men in 2 years after her 20-year marriage broke up. Read her insights and lessons to help you date more effectively. She’s a bestselling author, Oprah guest, and speaker. Read all of the Dating Goddess’s wisdom at Adventures in Dating After 40, http://www.DatingGoddess.com 2006-07 RL Morgan, All rights reserved. Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=R.L._Morgan http://EzineArticles.com/?Dating-After-40:-How-to-Trump-Being-Dumped&id=422387 ambien 10mg 30 days 28at29 249900 the generic name the drug ambien 5mg zolpidem gifts ambien viagra
